Family minus F equals…

July 30th, 2008 by Dianne Peña

Each of us desires to have a stable family of their own. We dreamt of a perfect family we could ever even fathom. I am sure everyone knows that a family comprises of a father a mother and a child or better, children. I can clearly remember of how my grade school teacher wrote the word FAMILY in the blackboard one sunny day. It was bold and capitalized. She finished it with an underline and said that it literally meant Father, Mother, I Love You but what if one of them is out of the picture? then, here comes the tough part. Broken families… could it still be called a family or just another “group of people”?

Incomplete, Abandoned, Unwanted, Discriminated, Separated, Imperfect, Unfortunate, Broken… those were the words connected to a family who has fallen apart, this is the social stigma attached to them. A family is supposed to be intact, united, loving and nourishing but due to some instances, it doesn’t. Living in a modern world today, I am aware of the many families crashing down. I have friends and I have myself to testify to that. Failed marriages, Unwanted pregnancies, Illegitimacies are the most common reasons for this. Yes, I am from a broken home. Some keep it as a secret because of the aforementioned reasons, they are shy and ashamed but I chose not to.

For 9 years now, I have been living with my hardworking, persistent and loving mother, who is a mother and father all in one for us. She has the most amazing and challenging job in the world being a solo parent. She never fails to provide us with everything though I know she is having a hard time considering that she doesn’t receive any help from my father but she always manage. I really admire her for that.

You may ask me of how does it feel to be in a broken family, I actually felt nothing different because my mother did a pretty good job in taking care of us but if you would ask me of how people react when they learned about this, well… that made me feel less of what I am. People often pity this kind of situation well in fact, they should be the one’s boosting up our egos that we could still it through life even if it’s just us. They should support us and not feel sorry for us. Nevertheless, this situation never stopped any of us in the family to be the best of what we can be. This serves as our motivation in achieving everything that we have now and what we are going to have in the future.

At some point, I feel broken families have stronger ties than “normal” families. Though they had fallen once, they still rise up and face new challenges that life awaits them. The thinking “it’s just us” I believe helped in maintaining the family intact even without the other member.

Being in this kind of family doesn’t make any of us less of a person. I know how they struggled and battled to the bitterness, harshness and rudeness of life and still survived it. I know there is something missing that truly affects you but it is rest assured that, God already blessed us a thousand fold He just wait for you to see it.

Strong, Brave, Hopeful, Courageous, Tested by fate… a Family of the new millennium, this is how I would like to call it. This is how I would like every one of us to see it…
No one wants to belong in this kind of family but I, I am proud to say that I am one of them. And yes, it is a family still.

*This was the second speech on my entire life that I delivered in front of the class only this time, it is recorded by a video camera. I got 94% in the delivery of the speech, high enough but I was a bit disappointed that the content of the speech was not graded anyway, I’ll let you be the judge of my work…

*My nervousness got up to my throat during the first sentences of my speech that is why some of my classmates thought that I am going to cry while delivering my speech considering that my speech is a tear-jerker and sensitive one. I am glad that it turned out well. I now know my mistakes and make it better for my next speech.

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